Picture a five-year-old girl, bright and imaginative, who likes building sand castles, collecting bugs, drawing, learning about dinosaurs, and putting together puzzles. She also loves princesses.
Unfortunately, only one of her many interests is represented among the toys and products marketed to her. She can easily find clothing and shoes with princess characters on them; eat princess-themed snack foods; brush her teeth with a princess toothbrush; carry her lunch in a princess lunchbox; and drink from a princess water bottle. She can have a princess themed birthday party and if she does, her guests will inevitably give her princess related gifts. In fact, her room can easily become filled with so much princess paraphernalia that it becomes a sea of pink and taffeta. And in the toy aisles, she can find a plethora of pink princess options to choose from, but little else. Now, more than ever before, it is possible for a young girl to be fully immersed in a corporate created princess experience in every moment of daily life.
Children’s toys haven’t always looked as they do today, however. In my research on gender and toys in Sears catalog advertisements over the 20th century, I found that gender-neutral toys were actually the norm versus the exception at the turn of the century and again in the 1970s, and similar trends have been found in research on historical children’s clothing. Additionally, it wasn’t until the 1990s that I found instances of the pink princess-themed toys for girls so ubiquitous today. Even then, in 1995 only 7% of the toys marketed to girls in the Sears holiday catalog were related to princesses, a small fraction compared with what we see today. It is simply not the case that girls have always clamored for pink and dreamed of being princesses. These are relatively recent phenomena that reflect contemporary marketing strategies and changing social beliefs about gender.
The profusion of passive princesses in the toy aisles has reached such an extreme that the media and parents are finally taking note. As a result, several companies have introduced new lines of toys for girls in an effort to “disrupt the pink aisles” and encourage girls into building. These toys—including the Lego Friends line and the GoldieBlox building toys—employ the same stereotypically feminine pink and pastel colors and relational themes found in standard pink aisle fare, but they do offer a somewhat broader range of activities and the potential for skill development. Many are excited about these toy lines, claiming that they have the potential to appeal to girls and parents who might normally reject building toys. However, as a sociologist who studies gender inequality, I am not as enthusiastic.
There are a mountain of studies which find that the same gender stereotypes which are heavily infused into these new girly building toys are at the core of many inequities in the adult world, such as the persistent gender gap in science, technology, and engineering (STEM) fields. By definition, stereotypes are broad, categorical generalizations centered upon difference (e.g. “boys like building and girls like reading”) and they carry implicit status assumptions (e.g. girls aren’t naturally inclined toward or as good at building as boys are). Research has found that these kinds of implicit assumptions operate in multiple subtle ways to inhibit such things as task performance and future career aspirations. They also form the basis of numerous processes of discrimination—for example, stereotypes that women are less capable in science can cause them to be evaluated more harshly than equally qualified men.
The truth is there is no gene that gives boys special building talents and girls unique relationship skills, just as there is no princess gene. Rather, there are a set of widely-held cultural beliefs and stereotypes about boys and girls which shape and reinforce gendered patterns of behavior. These same stereotypes led the toy industry to take building sets like Lego, initially designed to be gender-neutral, and begin marketing them exclusively to boys in the late 1980s. After systematically ignoring girls for two decades, sending the not-so-subtle message that building toys are for boys, toy makers now wish to bring girls back into the fold. But to do so by suggesting that they must be enticed into building with cutesy pink themes only reinforces the idea that girls have fundamentally different (read less valuable) capacities, skills, and interests than boys. In essence, this tactic only reinforces the very problem it hopes to solve.
If we truly want to disrupt stereotypes in the toy aisles, we need to stop pandering to them. We need to stop reinforcing the idea that girls are somehow innately driven to love pink and princesses and will only play with something if it is hyper-feminine. Historically, this hasn’t been the case and it need not be the case today. As a society, it is time we challenge the idea that boys and girls have fundamentally different play needs and interests that are determined by gender. While some girls do like princesses and relational play, many—like my own daughter—do not. And while some boys do enjoy building sets with aggressive themes, many would enjoy toys with relational or domestic themes if they were given the opportunity to play with them. The fact is, there is a tremendous diversity in interests among boys and among girls, and this diversity is far greater than the small differences between them.
Instead of more pink building sets, we need more toys that include a broad spectrum of colors (including pink) and diverse themes and which are marketed inclusively to both boys and girls. In the 1975 Sears catalog, ads for both science kits and kitchen sets showed boys and girls working together. We need to ask ourselves: Why does this concept seem so foreign today? As a society, we should hope to expand rather than constrain the range of options available to our children. As parents, we should not find it so difficult to allow our children to explore and develop their many interests, from bug collecting to dinosaurs to dress-up.
I’m grateful for the work of grass-roots companies who offer innovative products and resources that truly challenge gender stereotypes and offer alternatives to princess culture. I’m also heartened by the successes of parents and advocates in the UK, Sweden, and now in Australia who are using their collective voices to challenge gender segregated and stereotyped toys. I believe it is through these kinds of efforts that we can actually begin to dismantle the limitations of the pink and blue aisles. It’s well past time.
Elizabeth Sweet recently earned her PhD is Sociology at UC Davis. Her dissertation research focuses on the role of gender in children’s toys over the 20th century. She is the proud mother of an 11-year old daughter.
Yesterday, the blogosphere blew up with talk about a new video from the company GoldieBlox that has gone beyond viral. It shows three little girls breaking out of the "princess" duldrums to construct a massive Rube Goldberg machine. I received countless messages and emails about the ad with most asking me, "Isn't this great!?" Undoubtedly, I agreed that the ad was indeed a good one and sent a wondefully positive message: Girls can build.
However, some of the responses to the commercial noted that the actual product behind the ad wasn't groundbreaking at all. Instead, the company's building toy for girls is laden with all the things it says it's breaking free from: pink, pastel, princess. On GoldieBlox's website--the latest toy features a princess pageant and a parade float along with the narrative: "In this much-anticipated sequel, Goldie's friends Ruby and Katinka compete in a princess pageant with the hopes of riding in the town parade. When Katinka loses the crown, Ruby and Goldie build something great together, teaching their friends that creativity and friendship are more important than any pageant."
In other words, the toy itself isn't doing much in terms of breaking from the norm--and, I have to agree with Emily Rosenbaum in her post on Ms. Magazine's website, "Correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t we already have a construction toy made out of pink, lavender and baby blue plastic that’s marketed to girls? It’s called LEGO Friends." Great--just what the world needs, another ultra-girly, princess-themed toy. It's not like we don't have enough of those already. Just recently, LEGO Friends introduced their Disney Princess version and, if you don't like that, you can choose the Barbie Build 'n Play Super Star Stage from Mattel and Mega Bloks. They are both building toys "for girls" with a princess or fashion doll theme.
This is all about what I call "girl-centric" marketing--not to be confused with "girl empowering" products/marketing. There is a difference. Girl-centric brands stay within the realm of hyper femininity lumping girls into a very fixed version of girlhood. An example of this would be this Easy-Bake Ultimate Oven commercial. Girl-empowering, on the other hand, sends the message that girls are capable beyond this realm--that they are unique individuals who can't be grouped into a single version of femininity. This Nike ad nails it:
Albeit, it was easy to see why the GoldieBlox video became so popular so quickly--it utlized girl empowerment. But the product is girl-centric. It still focuses on those things that keep girls in a constant mythological state of princess euphoria. My friend and colleague Melissa Wardy over at Pigtail Pals Ballcap Buddies said it best in her post "Stop Using Stereotypes to Sell STEM to Girls": "Stop believing the hype, 'Well, if it gets girls building that is all I care about.' No. Just no. Have more faith in girls that they don’t need products dripping in the pink syrup and exhausted princess stories. Be brave enough to tell new, more daring stories. If you go there, the girls will come. They don’t need pink bread crumbs leading the way. Have the strength of your convictions."
Yes. We need to stick to our convictions--otherwise, the addiction will continue and companies will continue to pull the pink wool over our eyes. Integrity matters. At least it does to me. And itegrity means that your mission and product match up. It seems to me Branding 101.You can't keep repeating you want girls to be "more than a princess" and then include princess in your product--it just doesn't work that way and people will call you out on it. It should matter whether a company's advertising aligns with the real product. Shouldn't it? I don't know about you, but if I were to purchase an item that sold itself as one thing and it was something completely different--I'd be pissed.
However, the great disappointment that some felt after seeing the "princess pageant parade float" behind GoldieBlox's ad only tells me that there is a tremendous desire for something that isn't the same-old, been-there-done-that concept. A market does exist for a toy and narrative that offers both girls and boys an option and recognizes that they each bring something unique to a toy--it doesn't have to be the other way around. I received this comment on my Princess Free Zone FB page in response to a NY Times article by Peggy Orenstein that discussed how highly gendered toys do have an effect on the lives and perceptions of children, "Why is not possible to accept that boys and girls are individuals who will play in their own preferred ways, with the same toys, with each other?" I, for one, believe it is possible and that we can change the tide of extreme gendered marketing that limits girls opportunites and distances boys and girls from each other in the process. But someone has to be the first to take the plunge.
Almost five years ago, I created a tool girl and wrote a children's book not only to encourage girls to build, but to show all kids that a girl can enjoy wearing a tool belt (that isn't pink) and swinging a hammer like anyone else (please note, there are already TWO male animated builder characters). My belief is that if girls actually SEE a variety of options, besides princess and pink, they might actually choose something different. When they are given more of the same--they won't. It seems ridiculously logical to me. How do I know? Not one girl who has read or heard my book has complained that Lula wasn't wearing pink or a tiara. In fact, mothers have told me their daughters wanted to go out and get a tool belt so they could be like TooLula. In fact, TooLula is based on my own daughter who prefers pants to skirts, cars to castles, and a tool belt to a tiara. She and her friends (girls and boys) somehow always find the middle ground to play and even build together which is why I found it important to include boys in the narrative.
I have a treatment that is based on the book and character which I am currently looking to pitch to networks as an animated series. The world is ready for a girl builder who busts stereotypes by simply being herself, who can teach kids about accepting differences while encouraging skills like building and math. I am convinced that the world needs her, that kids are ready for her, and that parents are starving for this kind of option. A real option. I've been at this too long to simply accept the status quo when I know there is a groundswell of support simply waiting for it. Our girls deserve to know that we believe in their ability to go beyond a world of princess and pageantry.
While in NYC with the Brave Girls Alliance making our debut on a Times Square Billboard--trying to fight the images of overtly sexualized images girls are exposed to and the gender stereotypes that limit all children--it was impossible not to notice these images everywhere. Here is an ad I saw on a bus stop for the video game Grand Theft Auto starkly juxtaposed against the BGA billboard with one of PFZ's tweets: Brave Girls Want more representation and diversity in video games. This is why we have to keep going.
Folks--there's a new science in town. And it doesn't require a PhD. Nope! You just have to be at least eight-years-old and concerned about your "skin's needs." It is called the "WILD SCIENCE GLAMOLOGY REJUVENATION PACK":
"A unique range of collectable kits that teach all the fundamentals of skin care, helping girls to create cosmetics unique to their skin’s needs, while having fun with the Rejuvenation Pack 3 - Soothing Cream and Body Mist."
It is recommended for ages 8 and up--you know because eight-year-olds really need to learn how best to take care of those soon-to-be laugh lines and crow's feet. Undoubtedly, girls should begin learning, as soon as possible, that they won't be young and beautiful forever and that it's never too early to "feel great about being you!" by pampering themselves with "the secrets of beauty."
Forget busying themselves with things like actual science kits that might entail messy lab experiments or studying rock formation! This will teach them to always be aware of their flaws while providing an outlet for their creativity and curiosity. What more could a girl want?
I have an idea. More than Glamology.
by Michele Yulo
Here's a news bulletin: LITTLE GIRLS SWEAT! Oh--and sometimes they even stink. Yep--they play hard and get dirty. Now, this may not be a surprise to some, but given the way we raise girls in a delicate princess culture that teaches how "little ladies" are expected to behave, or one that models femininity as they grow and develop in very specific ways, it is no surprise that it is often at odds with the idea that girls are just as active as boys.
I took this photo of my eight-year-old daughter taking a break after working hard at the batting cages. She plays baseball (loves to slide!) and would much rather be on a baseball diamond than almost anything else (...except maybe Minecraft!). But even though she is an accomplished athlete even at this young age and can hold her own on any boys team, she still faces a certain amount of bias. Last year, during recess when she would play tag football with a few boys, she'd come home upset saying, "Mom--the boys won't throw me the football! They think I can't catch!" Finally, she intercepted a pass, but even after that they still hesitated to throw her the ball.
What I find so gnawingly sad about these moments is that I know they creep into her psyche and undoubtedly have an effect on her. I know that she will have to prove herself over and over again by being better--not just as good, but better. And while she seems to be up for the fight (at least for now)--I often wonder how many girls out there simply accept the stigma--that girls can't play as good as boys, or girls don't belong on a boys team--and give up.
My friend and colleague Justine Siegal, whose organization Baseball for All is all about making baseball accessible to girls from an early age and beyond, has a good deal to say about this as she has made her way from playing the game as a young girl, pitching batting practice to MLB teams, coaching, and now mentoring. In her TedX talk, she points out that, according to Little League statistics, "approximately one-hundred thousand girls play Little League baseball," and yet "only one thousand girls play high school baseball." She then asks the obvious question: "What happens to the other ninety-nine thousand girls?" Are all ninety-nine thousand simply not good enough to play high school baseball? Is there not one in that entire group who cannot play as good as the most average male on any high school team? I, for one, do not believe that's the case.
But this is not just about baseball. Baseball is just a metaphor. It's about life--a girl's life. If we want girls to be and become leaders (which is central to Sheryl Sandberg's message in Lean In), to be assertive and confident in their ability to run a boardroom--shouldn't we lose the "little lady" talk? If we want boys to look at girls as equals--and not a princess that needs saving--shouldn't we show them that real girls are gritty and actually don't mind getting dirty? And, yes, that real girls sweat and sometimes it ain't pretty. But shouldn't life be about more than being pretty? Or sweet? Or hot? We can't expect girls to head into college or the corporate world and suddenly slough off everything that we, as a culture and society, have taught them--the message that we put out to girls from birth needs to change. Asking girls to always be clean, proper and pretty sets up an unrealistic expectation that hurts their ability to play side-by-side with the boys. Which is why I say it's okay to let 'em see ya sweat.
by Michele Yulo
Last year, when my daughter turned seven, my husband and I took the Magic Kingdom plunge. We made the trek to Disney World which seems to be every child's rite of passage into the world of life-sized characters, thrilling rides, and...childhood magic. While I was never big on Disney World myself and had only been there a couple of times--Gabi had been asking to go. While she is a princess-free girl, I knew there would be many other things she would enjoy and didn't want to miss the opportunity for her to experience it at the perfect age. So off we went.
There was one incident which I think shines a particular spotlight on how large corporations like Disney view children. And this certainly did not come as any shock being that we were in Disney World (I know! I know! What did I expect?) but, still, nobody does it like Disney. As we walked up to the reservations desk at the hotel we were greeted by a lovely woman with a welcoming smile. She immediately greeted us and turned toward Gabi and said, "and is this your little prince?" Gabi has short hair and doesn't dress in pink or skirts or sparkle. I said very matter-of-factly, "Nope. And she isn't a princess either." The woman, looking uncomfortable and stupefied, literally had nothing to say. Why? Because there is no room for anything in between those two identities at Disney, and clearly their employees are not trained in the "what if a child doesn't fit into one of these two categories?" situation.
But, in the broader context, is this something that only occurs in the Magic Kingdom or in Disney-related marketing? Absolutely not. This is how many large companies market to children. Girls and boys are both vulnerable to being corralled into separate arenas solely based on what will bring the most profit regardless of "corporate social responsibility" (CSR). The fact is that while many corporations practice some form of CSR--it usually does not include any standards related to gender or address the psychological ramifications of how children might be affected by a continual stream of stereotyping that is often at the very core of childhood bullying.
To the point, here are a variety of ads that depict children in very separate and distinct ways based on being a girl or boy that illustrate the disturbing demarcation that has occurred over the years setting up specific roles and expectations for each sex:
You might have heard about Stride Rite's latest ad campaign that received a lot of attention from blog posts and articles to major news outlets in which girls can "wish like a princess" while boys take on "the power of Darth Vader":
Someone sent me this photo taken recently at a BJ's retail store highlighting the differences between the toys (and notice how similar in color these look to Stride Rite's). Once again, girls are "princesses in training" while the Monster's Inc. fun house is reserved for boys.
But wait--there's more! According to these books--girls learn how to be gorgeous with "Smart ways to look and feel FABULOUS" while boys learn how to be clever with "Smart ways to get smarter." And we wonder why women do not pursue careers in STEM?
I could post pages and pages of these kinds of ads for a variety of products that never show girls and boys actually playing together or sharing the same toy. More and more children and parents find themselves having to choose between being a princess (for girls) and being a pirate or some kind of warrior (for boys). Girls are typically provided with hyper-feminine options while boys are often hyper-masculinized without much room for anything else.
Has it always like this as some argue? Here are a couple of older ads from the 80s that seem to defy the "it's always been like this" argument:
There was a time (seems like eons ago) when companies actually viewed children as children--not "blue" boys and "pink" girls. Not boys playing one way and girls another. I grew up in a time when my brothers and I pretty much played with the same toys like Big Wheels (not one in pink for girls), Tinker Toys and LEGOs. You'd be hard-pressed now to find any form of marketing to children in which both sexes are represented or playing together. I recently spoke to a co-worker about this situation in terms of the stark line that has been drawn between the sexes. It was something he was mildly aware of, but then realized that his five-year-old daughter wondered why girls and boys didn't play together.
The question is--what to do? It seems like an extremely ardous battle--fighting multi-million dollar corporations who have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. But a group of very determined and concerned women, including myself, have forged an alliance called Brave Girls Want. This group is a collaborative effort of girls, businesses, experts, not-for-profit organizations, activists, parents and educators who intend to shine a light on the corporate mentality that limits children's "in-between-ness," if you will. Our goal is to not only bring greater awareness to the situation, but to effect change. Our hope is to begin to unravel these seemingly entrenched stereotypes that tell girls and boys that they are worlds apart from each other. Or marketing that sends the message to girls, for instance, that building toys or science kits must be pink for them to be interested. Our first project is to invade NY City's Time Square with a billboard that will provide constructive, proactive and inspiring messages as suggestions for media and toys creators, retailers and big corporations. Change is hard and takes time, but we believe our children are worth the effort.
We want all children to experience the childhood they deserve. The childhood that allows them the freedom to explore their own individuality and uniqueness. Because we know that every girl is more than a princess and every boy more than a pirate, but we want them to know that too.
This post was initially a long tirade about how companies are suffocating our children with their own brand of childhood that separates girls and boys into two distinct aisles at the toy store and well beyond that. But when I started to sound like my own broken record (Ive been writing about this for a long time now), I thought, "I'm just going to say what I really think." Without intellectualizing, without supporting my argument with all of the good research and articles that are out there. Nah--just going to put it out there.
So here's what I think about the whole pink/princess culture that is dominating girlhood--that has so many thinking that girls just won't play with things like microscopes, building sets, and science kits unless they're pink and purple.
We shouldn't need petition after petition to convince companies of what we all already know--that girls are smarter than what is being offered to them.
What we need to do is just rip the pink-princess band-aid right off instead of slowly lifting the edges a little at a time. Because doing it slowly is hurting girls--not helping them. And I've got news--girls don't need it. This is not rocket science--it is simple logic. What girls really need is more choice. They need to SEE options. If they don't see it--they can't choose it.
And when you rip off that band-aid, sure, it might hurt for a split second. There even might be a tear. But once it's completely off-- they'll just run off and play as if nothing happened. I promise.
by Michele Yulo
Have you seen the new Lego Friends ad that has been making its way around social media?
It seems really nice, right? A smiling girl with her creation. The text that says, "She's an explorer, a builder, a designer, a creator, and an inventor." In this ad, Lego puts a new twist on the now famous ad (below) from 1981 that went viral last year when Lego Friends was first introduced in which a little redheaded girl in braids, dressed in all blue against a brown background, holds her Legos proudly without any pink or purple in sight. What many pointed out about what made this particular ad so great was the obvious non-gendered way Lego marketed to kids back then. It seems that once-upon-a-time there was no need to appeal to girls' sense of color or to even address the audience by gender. The copy appeals to all children and addresses them as such without ever using the words girl or boy. This is also evident in the name of the sets: Universal Building Sets. Clearly, these sets are for everyone--boys and girls alike.
Conversely, the latest ad for Lego Friends targets "she" only. Yes, the girl pictured is in blue (yay!) and is proudly holding her Lego invention (that is loaded with pink and purple, of course), but the ad is all about girls as is Lego Friends. In a conversation on Facebook that asked for thoughts about it, I said: The thing for me is that I can see Lego trying to hearken back to the 1981 ad that shows a little girl in blue jeans and blue tee proudly holding her Legos (by the way--this girl appears to be much older here). But the 1981 ad doesn't identify which gender the Legos are actually for; instead, it allows for all children to be included in imaginary play. [Whereas the new] ad continues to perpetuate the marketing scheme that there are toys for girls and toys for boys. I know that there are boys who like Lego Friends as well--this ad excludes them. Yes, it appears to be lovely and sweet. It appears to tell girls they are unique, they can do anything. But this ad is sneaky. And if you place this ad side by side with the 1981 ad--it still lacks the 'what it is is beautiful' sentiment that tells ALL children they are capable of anything. Just putting a girl in blue doesn't make that happen.
In addition, an article in Britain's The Telegraph questions (as have others) whether "pinkifying" toys, specifically Legos which are supposed to encourage girls in areas of building and science, is helping or hurting. When we separate girls and boys in this way, we are telling both sexes that girls can't be interested in things like science unless they are color-coded or include things like puppies and cupcakes. The article quotes a Lego "spokesperson" who says, “'We’ve always had Lego bricks that are pink and we’ve got a wide variety of different sets," adding, "'We don’t say ‘this is for girls’. It’s up to the child or the parent to make the choice.'” That is a completely false statement. First of all, take a look at the 1981 ad and you'll see that Lego has not always had pink bricks. I'd also ask them to review their own advertising for Lego Friends which does not include a single boy (and no male minifigs), as well as the initial announcement that was made when Lego Friends was first introduced in which they admit omitting girls from their product marketing and advertising until last year while specifically saying that the new sets are aimed at "girls five and up" and not "kids five and up." [What an easy fix!]
What continues to boggle my mind is why Lego never once, over the past ten to fifteen years, thought to simply open up their existing product lines to girls--or never once thought girls might actually love the Harry Potter sets, or might be into constructing a helicopter or a police station. Yes, the new ad is nice, but it does indeed address girls only and, even though it attempts to look like the 1981 ad, unfortunately it completely misses the beauty and simplicity of their past message that all Legos are for all kids. What happened?
Last year, I did my own homemade version of the ad to show that it is not that kids have changed forcing companies to adopt "separate but equal" and "pink marketing" strategies--in fact, it is the other way around. I didn't change the tagline except to say that "What it is is still beautiful." Because it is.
I will say that the newest ad is a step in the right direction and I recognize that Lego seems to be trying to broaden their gender horizons, however, the message is the same: girls and boys can't possibly play with the same toys. We must continue to deconstruct media that continues to perpetuate gender stereotypes--even when it seems to be sweet and harmless. With that in mind, here is what I'd like to say to Lego: I know you are capable of making advertising that appeals to ALL children because you've done it before. I have the proof and so do you. It's not that difficult, so just do it.
by Michele Yulo
Princesses can be all things to all girls. Just ask Disney or take a look at their latest attempt to strengthen their princess brand--a video that basically says if you are a girl, you are a princess first and foremost, and then you are everything else:
Descarte's "I think, therefore I am" comes to mind only according to Disney girl philosophy it is, "I am a princess, therefore I am." Don't get me wrong--I am not saying the message here is horrible nor is it going to solve the world's problems. On the surface it seems incredibly sweet and empowering with lines like, "I have heard I am beautiful, I know I am strong." Deeper analysis, however, is necessary especially when it comes to a massive corporation like Disney continuing to further their marketing agenda which is to say continuing to push their billion dollar princess empire. In so doing, they are still trying to fit all girls into a single model--even while expanding that model. I do give them some credit for trying to broaden the very definition of princess to include adjectives that go beyond the typical identifiers, but in my opinion they are still getting it wrong. Yes, a princess can be all the things described in the video, but not all girls can be a princess.
In anticipation of those who would say I'm somehow evil for not wanting girls to be princesses or that there is nothing wrong with playing dress up in a tiara, gown, and glass/plastic slippers--let me reiterate that I don't have a problem with princess in general or little girls who play dress up once in awhile. While this is the Princess Free Zone, princess is alive and well and not going anywhere. I just felt, in a world in which princess is a major force in the lives of girls, there needed to be an equal and opposite place where girls know they can be free spirits without the tiara because I have a daughter who is living proof that all girls do not fit into that mold, and there are many like her. But this video surpasses the idea of princess as simply fantasy play; instead, it takes on a much more serious tone by normalizing the idea that every girl is a princess in her everyday life.
That is the issue. This blanket assumption that every little girl is, needs, or wants to be a princess is patently false. By replacing "girl" with "princess," it's almost as if Disney would have us believe that girls are somehow biologically destined to be a princess first and a girl second, as if there is some dominant "princess gene" found in their DNA. While some girls do enjoy the princess fantasy, it is only a single expression of girlhood. Princess should not come first--being a girl should come first: a brave girl, a compassionate girl, an athletic girl, an intelligent girl, a funny girl, etc. Why does there have to be one monolithic trope that attempts to put all girls into one category? Simply put--because it sells. And this video goes even further to broaden the appeal by incorporating princess as not just a facet of girlhood, but the very essence of girl.
You might have seen this video of Sonya Sotomayor that speaks to empowering all kids through a conversation about careers with Sesame Street's Abby Cadabby.
When Abby enthusiastically proclaims she wants "a career as a princess!" Justice Sotomayor explains to her that while "pretending to be a princess is fun...it is definitely not a career" or "a job." (And the juxtaposition of Justice Sotomayor in her black robe against Abby in her princess costume is striking.) She goes on to provide Abby with a host of career options including teacher, lawyer, doctor and even a scientist. She makes it clear that princess isn't the be-all to end-all and not a realistic aspiration which it shouldn't be. As a result, Sotomayor places princess exactly where it should be: a fun thing to pretend.
Interesting to note as well is that this is not an issue for Disney with respect to boys. You won't see Disney making a video that addresses boys as a prince, for instance, or anything else for that matter. That's because boys are offered a variety of models to choose from and are represented in many imaginative ways including super heroes, warriors, ninjas, pirates, explorers, etc. There is no single one role or form of play that is pushed on boys the way that princess is pushed on girls. We need to ask ourselves why that is, as well as how princess culture affects boys in general. Also, what about boys who actually like princess themselves? How about girls who want nothing to do with princess? Why is it so difficult to accept that children are just as diverse as adults and that, by pushing princess onto girls (and boys) in this way, it either reinforces stereotypes or alienates girls who don't see themselves this way--either way, it's not good.
I believe that attempting to turn the idea of princess fantasy into reality is problematic. This is not about princess play--it is about allowing children to be free from stereotypes, to explore their identities without an identity being forced onto them. There are princesses who are real, and I'm pretty sure that real-life princesses are not all like Snow White. What I do know is that they are all girls. So, Disney--go ahead. Make a great video that tells girls that they are strong, that they are brave, that they are kind, generous...all those things. Just drop the princess so girls know they can choose to be whatever they like.